“I have this critic inside that is so abusive… but what’s its motivation? It doesn’t want me to get attacked from the outside so it’s willing to attack me from the inside. That’s when it’s time to invite the critic to the table and say, “I know you want me to make great work, but you can’t speak to me that way — you’re in my house.” (Part One)
“It’s okay to withhold trust and make it be something earned; it’s also beautiful to give somebody a ton of trust from the start and let them have something that they can lose.” (Part Two)
Sam Lamott describes himself as a “single dad, college drop-out, ex-meth head who came out of a ten-year bender at the age of 22 with severe clinical depression, a two-year-old, and zero life skills.”
So he started the podcast How To Human where today he interviews guests like Brené Brown on how to acquire the psychological skills needed to be a thriving, functioning adult. Sam is also the co-author of the New York Times bestseller, Some Assembly Required, which he co-wrote with his mother, author Anne Lamott.
Sam and I ended up talking for over an hour and the conversation very naturally fell into two separate topics: 1) the creative process and our relationship to what we create, and 2) romantic relationships and their significance in our lives.
So this conversation will be split into two separate episodes. You can pick the topic that interests you most, or listen to them both back-to-back!
In Part One, Sam and I talk about how your inner critic is actually trying to protect you, how physical symptoms can indicate unresolved internal conflict, and why the “starving artist” mentality can be so detrimental when it comes to your relationship with money.
Part Two is all about relationships, specifically romantic. Sam outlines how to set a boundary with anyone, and how freedom and sacrifice show up in both healthy and toxic relationships
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For me boundaries are connected to my values. Boundaries are meant to protect my personal values.
Margaret, I love the idea that boundaries and values inform each other — thank you for giving me something new to think about!
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